When you are in a relationship of any kind and you are usually monogamous you may find that it is quite strange when you have the option of having sex with someone else. Whether you have decided to cheat or your spouse has agreed to allow you to have sex with someone else you may find the prospect very exciting in a way that you have not found sex exciting in a lot of time. While this is true, you should know that there are some pros and cons to having sex with someone else while you are in a relationship.
While you may be really excited about the idea of having sex with another individual you should stop and think first about how it will impact your current relationship. Even if you have decided that you are going to do this together or that it will be a one time thing, it is going to impact your relationship. Are you prepared for things to never be the same again? Would you be willing to give up your current relationship to have sex with another person? You have to be willing to weigh the risks of having sex with someone else before you actually do it.
There are other risks that you need to think about in relation to having sex outside of a relationship. These risks include disease. There are a lot of sexually transmitted diseases that you will need to protect yourself from and not all of them can be avoided with a condom and birth control pills. You need to realize that every time you have sex with someone you are putting yourself at risk. Of course, in addition to disease you also have to know that there are other risks associated with having sex outside of your relationship, such as having really bad sex! Think about these things before you act!
Of course, there are some positive things about having sex with another person outside of your relationship. First, you may be able to try some new things that you had never thought of before or that you can’t do with your current partner because of their likes and dislikes. You may also find that having sex with someone else boosts your confidence and makes you feel sexy and wanted again, which often are feelings that dissipate when you are in a long term relationship.
Having sex outside of your current relationship can be a lot of fun, but it can also be risky for a wide variety of reasons. You need to consider whether or not you are willing to take the risk of ruining your relationship, catching a disease, or having an awful time just to step outside of the relationship for a good time, a new experience, or a confidence boosting experience. You need to weigh all of the pros and cons in your life and determine whether sex outside of your relationship really is the right thing for you.
By Rodrigo Rehn
